Being a woman in relationships with men

And not the monogamous-y kinds of relationships. What else is there to experience? Is it okay to do this or am I “messing with his emotions”? Am I even allowed to not tie myself down to his emotions? Or if he retaliates against me is it also my fault for not giving him what he wanted? Am I being reckless? And what if I am, am I allowed? Just some questions running through my mind these days..

Thanks, RDL for the share:

And there’s this:

A woman is not a potted plant
her roots bound
to the confines
of her house

a woman is not
a potted plant
her leaves trimmed
to the contours
of her sex

a woman is not
a potted plant
her branches
against the fences
of her race
her country
her mother
her man
her trained blossom
turning this way
to follow
the sun
of whoever feeds
and waters

a woman
is wilderness
holding the future
between each breath
walking the earth
only because
she is free
and not creeper vine
or tree

Nor even honeysuckle
or bee.

~Alice Walker



Of all the inspiration and strength you have given me, the least I could do is write a post for you.

Beautiful, strong, woman.
You have given so much of yourself to the world, you live on in all of us. I have been inspired by you since I first laid eyes on you and you have become part of me ever since. I have been exploring my spirituality for the last several months. On a mission to discover what I believe and feel, and the right form to express myself in. I have met my soul mate and this has transformed me. I am now a believer in such a thing. Someone here who is like a magnet to you. They would have found you regardless of circumstance. I don’t mean that to say without each other we would have never felt love. We both have felt love before, but nothing like this. It makes me spiritual knowing him and having him. I wanted to know more about this side of myself.

So, I believe that when you are here you leave yourself here forever. A part of you lives on whether it is big or small you have made an impact on the world. Together we are powerful because together we can create great change and beauty. You have made a big impact, a known and obvious one. You have inspired women revolutionaries and artists. You have created art that lives on past you. A little piece of who you are is in me and in others who are touched by you. This is my spirituality. It is the connection between human beings. It is in the things we create together, it is in the bonds we have with one another. We need each other to survive and we need to create to survive. You are one example of expressing our humanity and for that you are loved and for that you live on.

lady day

Billie Holiday – Strange Fruit

“Southern trees bear strange fruit
Blood on the leaves and blood at the root
Black bodies swinging in the southern breeze
Strange fruit hanging from the popular trees

Pastoral scene of the gallant south
The bulging eyes and the twisted mouth
Scent of magnolias, sweet and fresh
Then the sudden smell of burning flesh

Here is fruit for the crows to pluck
For the rain to gather, for the wind to suck
For the sun to rot, for the trees to drop
Here is a strange and bitter cry”